RiverLife Weekly #32: Parents As Primary Disciple Makers

As parents, it is tempting to outsource discipleship of our children to the church, thinking we are not spiritually mature or knowledgeable enough to disciple our children. But Scripture gives a clear mandate to parents to teach children about who God is and what He says.

“Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” – Deuteronomy 11:19

Biblically, we learn that the discipleship of children is the responsibility and privilege of parents. Practically, a child spends much more time per week under the influence of their parents than in any other setting.

Both dad and mom disciple, but each disciple differently. Together they bring balance and allow children to experience different aspects of God’s love. Many desire to pass on faith to their kids in the context of the home but feel ill-equipped. How does discipleship at home happen?

Start by being growing disciples ourselves – because we can only give what we have. Fully embrace the truth of God’s great love for us. Then share that love freely and generously (Ephesians 3:16-19). Love Him with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength. Our kids and grandkids will love what we love.

Here are practical pointers for making our homes the primary place where discipleship takes place.

1. DISCIPLE INCREMENTALLY
   For parents starting out, begin with eating a meal together and giving thanks beforehand or finding an age-appropriate Bible and reading it together regularly. For those already on this journey, progress to share learning points from these Bible readings and dialogue with your children.
   
   
2. DISCIPLE PURPOSEFULLY
   Establish routines and rhythms (Deuteronomy 6:7). Set times for family prayer and Bible reading weekly. Create playlists of songs that the family knows from church to play at home. Invest time with each child. Be available to talk - about anything. Text your child that you are praying for them and ask if they have any prayer needs.
   
   
3. DISCIPLE HOLISTICALLY (Deuteronomy 6:7)
   Dedicated times of home discipleship are not the only times that will shape spiritual life. Jesus is Lord over every area of life. Help each child think biblically about school, media choice, relationships, emotions, finances, sport, health, and hobbies. For example, as we help with math homework, discuss how the laws of math work because God is a God of order and He establishes order in the universe that He created.

Parents are the primary disciple makers of our children. Our church will encourage, equip and partner with you to disciple your children. Our prayer is to grow our next generation as committed disciples who stand on our shoulders and reach greater heights with our Father.

Pastor Ben KC Lee